Team no team 

​I tried team natural, too religious, my faith didn’t last. Team natural  hair isn’t as easy as  YouTube natural hair vloggers make it look. 

You see YouTube hair has undergone so many changes they can be team big, bold, natural easily. 

Having manageable hair is more important to me than fad. What am I trying to prove? The independence of my hair? (I like the black hair discussion though)

 I tried letting it be and it just went wild. #myfuzzymane.


5 Songs From The Voice To Update Your Music Library



Music is one thing I really love. Can I say I have  passion for listening to music? Anyway, I like to think I have this ability to identify good music so am always on the search for new sounds.

While billboard charts and whatever my Facebook feed throws up prove useful, YouTube is one of my go-to places for new music especially blind auditions for music reality shows. Anytime I hear music from auditions I like, I search for the original artist and my library gets updated. Here are five of my new music for the week gotten from The Voice.

5. Song: Tennessee Whiskey

Artist: Chris Stapleton

Album: Traveller

Released: 2015


4. Song: Chain of Fools

Artist: Aretha Franklin

Album: Lady Soul

Released: 1967

3. Song: I Put A Spell On You

Artist: Nina Simone

Album: I Put A Spell On You

Released: 1965


2. Song: Do Right Woman, Do Right Man

Artist: Aretha Franklin

Album: I Never Loved A Man The Way I Loved You

Released: 1967

1. Song: Blue Bayou

Artist: Roy Orbison

Album: In Dreams

Released: 1963

I really like Linda Ronstadt’s cover.

Do share how you update your music library?



TEJU COLE: Every Day Is For The Thief

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Title: Every Day Is For The Thief

Genre: Fiction

ISBN: 978-0-8129-9579-4

Publication Date: 2007

Publisher: Cassava Republic Press

Format: Ebook

Language: English

Every day is for the thief is a fiction novel by Nigerian-American writer Teju Cole and was published in 2007.The book centers on a young man’s experiences in Lagos after 15 years in New York.Things are really different from what he left behind.

In this book Teju Cole explores the themes of inequality, corruption, religion, poverty, the struggle for survival, the Lagos spirit among others.  He also dissects Nigerians their values and hopes.

I appreciate the author’s take on arts in Nigeria and agree the arts have become sort of an elitist thing considering the economy.

“…If you want to learn cello, you must own a cello….They have set the bar quite high In Nigeria, it is prohibitively expensive for all but the most moneyed”

I also identified with his perspective on the religious nature of Nigerians.

 “I mean I don’t say things like I have malaria the tongue is very powerful you know…..”

“The idea that saying it makes it so”

This conversation was really hilarious.

I particularly found his perspective on the absence of any reminder that Lagos was a former slave trade route rather interesting. Defending his opinion he quotes Faulkner;

“The past is never dead. It’s not even past”

To the author Lagos being a former slave trade route is a great piece of history that sadly has been forgotten

“..In Lagos we sleep dreamlessly, the sleep of innocents”

I love how Teju weaves his writing with photography as the novel has a total of 19 pictures which gives it an eerie feel. I always knew grainy pictures could tell tales.


I recommend every day is for the thief to everyone. It captures present day Nigeria despite being written in 2007. Funny we never know the young man’s name.

For more of Teju Cole’s writings and photography click here.


What Nigerian authors have you been reading?


10 Stories I Want to Write In The Near Future

totally love this list especially the one on Biafra. What do you think about this list guys?

Afrocentric Confessions

A Pokot girl is smeared with a white paint to show she has undergone the rite of passage of circumcision. Photo by Siegfried Modola A Pokot girl is smeared with a white paint to show she has undergone the rite of passage of circumcision. Photo by Siegfried Modola

I’m always looking for a good story. I already have a lot of ideas on my brain shelf that I want to pursue journalistically. It’s just a matter of going out there on the field to write them! Here are some of the story ideas. What do you think?

#1 What Happens To The Clitoris?


Female Circumcision. Some call it Female Genital Mutilation. It’s still happening to millions of female around the world. There are different forms of female circumcision, varying in how much is cut. What I wanna know is, what does the “cutter” do with the cut clitoris and genital parts? Is it thrown away in the garbage can? Is it burned in a fire? Is it dedicated to the gods? Hmmm…this deserves some…

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Zeina is a book by Nawal El Saadawi an Egyptian feminist writer, anti female genital mutilation (FMG) activist  and medical doctor. She is popular in the literary world for her writings which have themes of feminism, religion,  FMG amongst others.
Her book Women and Sex published in 1972 has been said to be a foundational text for the second wave of feminism. The book was one of the reasons she was dismissed from the Ministry of Health where she worked as at that time.

I became familiar with her works while writing an article on African feminists in the 21st century. Her book Zeina is her second work I have read and it speaks about the thing we all know but do not say for fear of being lynched or labelled. Little wonder she was imprisoned for her views which are by the way the truth.

Zeina is a book about Boudour a professor with a dark secret and Zeina a child that bears her mother’s name. Although the book speaks about female repression and oppression in Egypt, it can be related to female oppression in other parts of the world.
Nawal not only  uses the theme of religion to depict how religion has been used from time to relegate women to the background, but also to show  how men have used religion to dictate to women what should be and not be.

The emir issued a ruling that women’s voices were a source of shame. Every part of their bodies, in fact was a shame, including the head, the seat of thought and intellect.

She expands more on this thought in this video at 0:16-2:07.

She also questions religion

Why did God create Muslims and Copts? Why do Copts confess their sins to the priests if God already knows everything that goes on in their hearts? Why do women stand behind men in church? Why do Muslims pray 5 times a day and not three or four? Why does a man a marry four wives and a woman marries only one husband?

She also explores the themes of menstruation, sex, and male rape in the Arab world.
A theme I strongly identified with was the issue of having a mother’s name. What’s in a name? This theme would be identifiable to those brought up in societies that are highly patriarchal, for it is seen as a taboo to bear your mother’s name. I wondered is it not my fundamental human right to decide if I want to bear my mother’s name or not? Of this Nawal asks;

Why is  having a father’s name an honor and having a mothers name a  disgrace?

The conversation the book Zeina starts for me is this “is a woman lesser than a man in every form?

Contemporary society may say No, but our actions as a society says otherwise. Personally I have come across “educated” people who have a problem relating with women for some reason that I must agree with Nawal stems from religion. I say religion and not society because culture has become an infusion of religion and tradition.

Zeina is a thought provoking book, and should be read with an open mind. This is because it touches on sensitive issues that have been accepted and never questioned because someone said that was what was written. It encourages us to seek the truth for ourselves and interpret in our own way.
While some may say she is a crying feminist, I like to think she is a woman in tune with herself and has the courage to speak the truth. You really have to be to tell yourself certain truths.

I recommend this book to everyone one who wants to have a glimpse of what is like to live in a society filled with religion, hypocrisy and women.

You can purchase a copy here 

Do you think female oppression exists? In what forms have you experienced or seen female oppression?

Enjoy The Journey

There are a million things that could possibly go wrong in an instant, but some days one thing goes wrong and upsets our day, week, year, life.Why do we let it when there is so much that could go right and will go right?

Yesterday was a weak day. Weak being I was emotionally tired. Aren’t we all. Someone said it was part of the academia journey. I gave a huge sigh. In a world where time waits for no one and people move up the ladder of accomplishments ever so fast, it is rather easy to sit and feel sorry for one’s self when a day goes bad. However,I choose to cherish yesterday for it will only make tomorrow much better.

This post is to every young woman on a journey. May wisdom guide your path.

The Mis-education of The Nigerian Male Mind

No,  I am not writing a post about how Nigerian men want to consistently relegate women to the background. Neither am I going to rant about how patriarchal society is, although I’ll mention it. Rather I am writing about the mis-education of the Nigerian male mind.

The average Nigerian man sees women as what they have always know them to be care givers, mothers and all that jazz. Do i blame them? No. I blame culture and society for laying the foundation of what has evolved into the labeling and tagging of women with words that depict us as nothing without men.Our heavily patriarchal society refuses to acknowledge that women are more than the stereotyped roles they are born into.

I blame parents for sticking to culture and tradition. Thereby, putting a ceiling on what girls can do or can not do. For it is at home we first hear statements like “Leave tree climbing for boys!  Stop whistling it is not lady-like! Men who grew up in settings like this already have a preconditioned mind towards what young girls and women can or can not do!

Imagine what happens when this Nigerian male mind meets a non-conformist woman. Another round of tagging and labelling begins. I climbed trees, grandma whistled and we turned out okay!! Therefore, it is essential parents let girls be what they want to be. Do not look shocked if they do not like dolls but rather want to go get their hands dirty in the yard.

Dear Nigerian male mind, yes you grew up with a preconceived notion about girls and women, its time to grow out of it. Open up your mind and embrace women and young girls for their individuality and not the non sense of conformity.

What actions or activities have you carried out that was termed unladylike like?

Sexual Harassment in Tertiary Educational Institutions Prohibition Bill, 2016.

If you schooled in Nigeria you must have known or heard about one young lady or the other who has been sexually harassed in school. I was quite lucky as I had a fairly scary surname and I did not entertain any situation that would let any lecturer talk trash to me.

So, what happens when a young girl who simply came to get an education is being preyed upon by her teacher?

God help that young lady if she dares report to the school authorities.  If she resists the lecture’s advances, she’ll most likely retake the course and have an extra year if she is not careful. On the other hand, she may be left off the hook if she has a school father among the lecturers in the university that can help her “talk” to the lecturer.  The talk being the “she is my sister talk”.

Some girls give in to their advances and risk being passed along to other lecturers in the process.

The Sexual Harassment In Tertiary Educational Institutions Prohibition Bill, 2016, makes it mandatory for any vice chancellor, provost and rector of a university, polytechnic and college of education to promptly act on the report of any sexual harassment by a female student, failing which he said such authority would be jailed for two years.

The bill also provides a compulsory five-year jail term for lecturers who sexually harass students. When passed into law, vice chancellors of universities, rectors of polytechnics and other chief executives of institutions of higher learning will go to jail for two years if they fail to act within a week on complaints of sexual harassment made by students.

Furthermore, the bill expressly allows sexually harassed students, their parents, or guardians to seek civil remedies in damages against sexual predator lecturers before or after their successful criminal prosecution by the state. The bill also seeks protection from sexual harassment for prospective students seeking admissions into higher educational institutions, students of generally low mental capacity and physically challenged students.

The bill has been referred to the Committee on Judiciary, Human Rights and Legal Matters. The committee has been asked to conduct a public hearing and report findings within four weeks.

This truly is a welcome development, as young women are on the road to being able to seat in class and no longer hide their faces behind books when receiving lectures for fear of that “womanizer” lecturer seeing them.

P.S Sophie said to say if you are in an office with a lecturer or anyone in school, put on your phone  recorder so you can have proof if anything happens.

Ever been sexually harassed in school? How was it resolved?


An Interview with Francesca Adeola Abiola, a Youth Champion for Women and Girls

Always happy to see young Nigerian women making a difference!!!! Francesca Adeola Abiola is truly an inspiration.

Rise Up is pleased to launch our Impact Blog Series for the Women Deliver conference in Copenhagen, Denmark. This series highlights the work of two Champions for Change (C4C) leaders in Nigeria and…

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